Memorial Day is a somewhat misunderstood holiday in the U.S. zeitgeist, seen by many civilians as the kickoff of summer with a vaguely patriotic backdrop. Yet, Memorial Day is intended as a time of solemn reflection and gratitude for those who have served in our military, particularly those who gave their lives in service. It might take the form of a moment of silence or spending much of the day in reflection, but one should be sure to take the time to honor veterans and soldiers on this day. Here are a few ways to do that, suggested by Vehicles For Veterans.

  1. Know your Memorial Day history.

It is a good idea to know basic Memorial Day history and where the tradition originates from. It was once known as Decoration Day, stemming from the Civil War as Americans across the country honored the fallen by visiting cemeteries or memorials and decorating them in remembrance, a practice still upheld by many on Memorial Day each year. One important distinction to note: It is not seen as appropriate to wish someone a “Happy Memorial Day,” as the intent behind the holiday is more sedate and introspective.

  1. Join in a Memorial Day tradition.

There are several growing Memorial Day traditions you can participate in, such as parades and memorial ceremonies. There is also National Poppy Day, on May 23, the Friday before Memorial Day, in which celebrants wear a red poppy to honor the fallen and support living service members. On Memorial Day, remember to set an alarm for 3:00 p.m. local time for the National Moment of Remembrance, a moment of silence nationally observed each year.

  1. Decorate a veteran’s grave.

There are numerous cemeteries across the U.S. that serve as the final resting places of many veterans and soldiers. Often there are gravesites of veterans and soldiers from conflicts long ago who may not have received special attention beyond maintenance in years. Make a point to bring your family together to decorate an older grave with flowers or a wreath.

  1. Dress festive, but don’t wear the flag.

It’s often overlooked, but the flag is not meant to be worn as a fashion accessory or T-shirt design. Disposable items like napkins or plates should also preferably be flagless. A more generic red, white and blue ensemble or star motif is a more appropriate nod to patriotic attitudes.

  1. Consider donating to a charity that supports veterans.

There are countless worthy causes that benefit living veterans that you can donate to in honor of these brave men and women. You could also donate your time as a volunteer to a local related charity.

  1. Thank a veteran in your life.

If you are lucky enough to have a veteran in your life, don’t forget to thank them today or this week.